Hyper-independence is often praised

Never needing anyone is a trait that gets rewarded everywhere, and a story can hide inside it. Self-reliance that formed because relying on someone once went badly looks like strength from the outside and often feels like exhaustion from the inside. The clip, 22 seconds, questions the praise.

This is parts-work territory. In the Internal Family Systems frame I use in therapy and counseling, a part that took on the job of never needing help usually took it on early, for good reason; the work is understanding what it protects rather than arguing with it. The clip also sits on the OCD page. The article on parts work, IFS, and somatic therapy is the longer read. The clip does not say any of this; it asks the question, and the pages above hold the practice's answer.

This video is educational and is not medical advice.